self-compassion

Posts on how to comfort yourself in difficult times.

Combat Perfectionism with This Simple Motto

Last week, in preparation for an upcoming training I’m leading, I made a trip to Office Max. As I looked around for Post-its and Sharpies, I overheard a conversation between a mom and a daughter. They were huddled around the daughter’s school supply list. The mom’s brow was furrowed, and …

Healthy People Talk to Themselves. Why You Should Too.

While some people might think psychologists generally frown on people talking to themselves, not me. Nope.  I encourage people to talk themselves. A lot, in fact. It might sound strange, but here’s the truth.   Healthy people talk to themselves. A lot.     Healthy people talk to themselves in …

Why It’s Important to Tell Yourself “Good Job”

When was the last time you gave yourself kudos for something? When was the last time you told yourself “good job?” Our brains have a tendency to focus on the negative, including our failures, our mistakes, and the things we didn’t do. However, research tells us we can change this …

What to Do When You’re Having a Bad Day

You know those days that feel like awful, terrible, no-good, bad days? The kind where nothing seems to be going your way and you’re wondering if you can just call it quits right where you are?   I had one of those days last week. I’d hit roadblock after roadblock …

How to Make a Mistake and Not Freak Out

Making mistakes is a normal part of life. We all do it. No matter how careful or mindful we try to be, we mess up. We forget, we space out, we lash out. We make mistakes. It’s totally human. Yet many of us are incredibly critical when we make mistakes. …

Gamechanger: “Self-Compassion” by Kristin Neff

Three years ago, I heard the term “self-compassion” for the first time, and I thought it sounded slightly ridiculous and overly fluffy. I quickly dismissed it and went about my business. But then, a client mentioned the book in session, and I gave it a shot. And my life, personally …