Posts on how to understand and cope when life boils over.
Should Statements: How They’re Making You Feel Like Crap
At least once a day, on the couch in my office, something awesome happens. A client is talking, when suddenly, they stop mid-sentence. They pause, smile, and then say something to the effect of, “Nope, I’m not going to say it!” They continue talking, but now in a slightly different …
All or Nothing Thinking: How It’s Making you More Anxious, Angry, and All Around Unhappy
Oh this is sneaky. And convincing. And it’s making you miserable. Today, I’m talking about one of the biggest errors in your thinking. All or nothing thinking. And you do it so often, you probably don’t even know it’s happening. But it is. And it’s wreaking havoc on all sorts …
Why I Don’t Believe in Having a Bad Day
So you’re having a bad day. You spilled your coffee, you messed up at work, and you argued with your partner. When you’re having a day like to this, it’s tempting to say you’re having a “bad day.” But I’m going to challenge you on this. Because I don’t believe …
Rehearsing Anger: The Bad Habit That’s Making Things Worse
Last week, I was flipping through Thich Nhat Hahn’s “Taming the Tiger Within”, when I came across a quote that had me vigorously nodding my head in agreement. The quote struck me so deeply that I decided to do a video on it right then and there. Today I’m …
Do This When You’re Complaining. It’ll Turn Things Around.
You know those moments when you’re complaining, and your little internal voice starts to take a nosedive, bringing out your inner two year old? I’ve got a super, simple tip for you that will turn your complaining (and your mood) right around. Let’s do this! Our brains can …
My Favorite Question to Ask When I’m Having a Bad Day
You know those days where it feels like absolutely everything is going wrong? It starts out with something small, and then before you know it, you’re yelling at the sweet cashier, crying over a paper cut, or plotting your move to a remote island where you don’t have to interact …
5 Ways to Respond When You’re About to Lose Your Cool
You know those moments when you can feel your blood boiling? You can almost feel the emotion welling up inside of you, ready to lose your cool. Those moments can be overwhelming and sometimes a little scary. Thankfully, you have a choice in how you respond. Try these five strategies …
How to Avoid an Argument at Thanksgiving: 5 Simple Tips
Pass the turkey and mashed potatoes, but hold the drama, please! Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude and good company, yet sometimes it can take a tense turn. Today, I’m thrilled to be sharing 5 super simple ways to avoid an argument around the Thanksgiving table.. Take a few minutes …
Why You’re Frustrated and What You Can Do About It
Frustration is a common emotion, and it’s one of the emotions that comes up most often in therapy. Feeling frustrated is consuming, and though we may not realize it, it is often a slow drain on our energy. On the surface, frustration might seem simple. We typically want something, whether it’s …
What to Do When You’re Having a Bad Day
You know those days that feel like awful, terrible, no-good, bad days? The kind where nothing seems to be going your way and you’re wondering if you can just call it quits right where you are? I had one of those days last week. I’d hit roadblock after roadblock …
