I have a confession to make. I totally get caught up in other people’s stuff. It’s true. I worry about stuff that isn’t mine, and I stress about stuff I can’t control. I wish I could say this is an occupational hazard of being a psychologist, but let’s be honest. Anyone who knows me knows that I’ve been this way since I was a kid.
For example, I often find myself asking, “Why are they doing that? That makes no sense. I don’t get it. What are they thinking?” Before you know it, I’ve gone down the rabbit hole of stressing about stuff that isn’t mine. I’ve spent time trying to get something that isn’t mine to get. Yep, this is how my brain functions when I let it do it’s thing. Getting swept up in other people’s stuff is my default. Can you relate?
It’s so easy for our brains to go on autopilot. We try to make sense of what other people are doing and why they’re doing it. We can’t seem to help getting swept up in other people’s stuff.
Thankfully, we aren’t stuck with our brain’s autopilot. We can choose to think differently, redirecting our attention to what’s ours. Today, I’m thrilled to share the hilarious yet super effective quote that’s saving my sanity right now.
This hilarious and somewhat silly phrase might seem flippant, but it’s amazing. It uses humor and sarcasm to remind us to focus on our stuff, not others people’s stuff. This phrase is an active reminder to redirect our attention when our brain wanders to what isn’t ours.
I’m a firm believer that healthy people talk to themselves. This is how we take control of our thoughts, redirecting them to a healthier and more helpful place.
For example, a friend asks for your advice and then does the complete opposite. Try this phrase.
Your family is being difficult about holiday plans, and you’re trying to make sense of their thought process. Use this phrase.
A coworker is being difficult, and you’re frustrated by their approach. Yep, you got it. Redirect your attention.
So when you find yourself getting wrapped up in other people’s stuff, be active in redirecting your attention. Otherwise, you’ll spend an hour stressing about something that isn’t yours in the first place. Remember, not my circus, not my monkeys.