If you struggle with anxiety, then you know what a Chatty Cathy your brain can be. It’s always saying something. Whether it’s predicting worst-case scenario, focusing on all the ways things could go wrong, or getting you to believe that you aren’t ready for something, your anxiety talks a lot. It lies a lot.
And it’s super convincing.
One of the biggest lies your anxiety wants you believe? That you can’t be anxious and still move forward. Your anxiety wants you to believe that as long as it’s around, you’re stuck. As long as it’s in place, you can’t make a move. Your anxiety tricks you into thinking that you can’t be anxious and still move forward.
But here’s the thing. You can. You can be anxious and still move forward. You might move slower, but you can still move. You might be more cautious, but you can still press forward. You might not have it all figured out, but you can still take the first step.
So often with anxiety, we think we have to get rid of it before we can do anything. We think we need to eliminate all the uncertainty before we can make a move. We view anxiety as a big, red stop sign that says, “You’re not ready. Don’t go; don’t move.”
We believe this lie. And we wait for the anxiety to go away, telling ourselves we’ll make a move when it does. So we sit and wait. And wait. And wait. And because our anxiety rarely just “goes away,” we’re left feeling defeated and discouraged.
So when you’re anxiety starts talking, tricking you into thinking you can’t be anxious and still move forward, talk back. Use your self-talk skills, and embrace this phrase.
“I can be anxious and still move forward.”
Anxious about changing jobs and feeling overwhelmed with where to start? “I can be anxious and still move forward.” Unsure how to have a tough conversation in an important relationship? “I can be anxious and still move forward.” Nervous about an upcoming presentation or event you’re in charge of? “I can be anxious and still move forward.”
Your anxiety will try to convince you that it’s impossible to be anxous and still deal. It wants you to believe that you can’t cope. But remember, your thoughts are not always the truth. Your anxiety lies.
So learn to talk back. Embrace the phrase, “I can be anxious and still move forward.” It matters, and it makes a difference.
PS: Are you ready to move forward? Check out this post and learn the three things you need to stop waiting for!